Graceful Growth | Midlife Wellbeing & Life Transitions Support

I help women who don’t feel good enough to feel
unimaginably calm, confident and secure without
expensive therapy, medication or embarrassment.

There’s a moment when I questioned my entire existence….

After running my own accounting practice for 32 years, I had migrated to the UK and was working at an accounting practice when one day I was called up to the CEO’s office… 

I playfully asked what I had done as I was sitting down, and the next moment I felt the blood draining from my face… 

“I’m afraid we’ve got to let you go Jill”.

My mind was racing…

How was I going to get another job?

In those few minutes I felt like my whole world was coming to an end.

Nothing like this had ever happened to me before.

I questioned everything about myself.

Was I too old to still be doing this job?

How was I going to tell my adult children who were already worried that I’d end up being
dependent on them?

How was I going to explain what had happened to my friends? To my friends back in South
Africa? To prospective new employers?

I felt worthless, discarded, not good enough, redundant, surplus to requirements.
The bottom had dropped out from my world.

My ego was shattered.

And then soon after that it happened…

I had flashbacks to previous times in life where as a woman I felt worthless…

I connected the dot of this redundancy to many dots before it…

And it dawned on me – I’d actually never really felt good enough.

Not good enough as a daughter…as a student…as a parent…as a wife…as an employee…

Just…plain not good enough

Why was that?

And how do I get over it?

My pain became curiosity.

So I set out on a journey of self discovery, motivated by the desire to finally feel not just OK with myself…but GREAT in myself.

And what I found shocked me…

My feelings of low self-worth had nothing to do with my past … nothing to do with my finances…job…situation… or anything you’re usually told.

In fact, it was to do with just three things.

Three principles – that explain why some people have sky high self-confidence… despite not working on themselves at all… and others have low self-confidence…. Despite working onthemselves for year or even decades.

I found these principles so empowering as a woman that I made it my mission to spread it further and wider so that women can finally escape that feeling of not being enough…

…and step into a version of themselves that feels unimaginably calm , confident and secure.

Welcome to The Stirk Method - a unique combination of life changing paradigm shifts.